I recently wrote a blog post about support. Something that I have received through a multitude of family members, teachers, colleagues and friends throughout my lifetime. Whether it was taking on a role (no matter how big or small), acing a test, going for an interview, or becoming an entrepreneur, I have had many different advocates who continued to encourage me in the face of adversity. However, most recently I have also received my fair share of hostility, mainly from women. During such an empowering time, women should be lifting each other.
During my many pursuits, I have found myself in fields that were dominated by females. Whether it was theatre class, teaching, or the field of fashion, I have been working side by side with other strong, professional women who were working hard to achieve their dreams. The three people I look most up to are my mother, who always taught me to follow my heart, my grandmother who is the strongest person I know, and my cousin who is a successful business women giving the men in her field a run for their money. Being consistently supported by strong, beautiful, “boss babes” gives me hope for a better future.
Now Let’s Get In Formation
Lately, I have found that women are more competitive than ever before. I have been “unfollowed” by long time friends, have had old friends “anonymously”(or so they thought) vote negatively on my surveys, and lately comment resentfully on my photos. I have developed thick skin, and have learned to brush off the “hate”. More importantly, I find it as the most sincerest form of flattery. It means a lot to me that those girls spend their time going through my feed and thinking of those spiteful comments to write. That means my feed inspired you, I inflicted emotion. However, it is not so much the cowardice bullying that ultimately lead me to write this post, but WHO is doing the bullying. WOMEN. Or, I guess, GIRLS.
Deciding to make blogging my full-time career was a huge leap for me. Starting a blog in the first place was extremely scary. Putting your life out there for the world to judge is terrifying, and along the way I learned a lot about what it takes to be a women. Pure fearlessness.
The below are thoughts I shouldn’t have to write, but because of some recent experiences, I sadly feel that it is necessary:
- Girls, you are not helping each other by putting one another down. Lift each other up! I appreciate CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM. For example, if you don’t like the way someone edits their post, instead of saying “You look ridiculous and ugly- not trying to be mean” (BTW just because you write “not trying to be mean” doesn’t make the comment not mean) why don’t you write something like “You are so beautiful, you don’t need so much editing! Let your natural, gorgeous self shine!”
- You are not above anyone. Be nice to everyone, because you never know where they will be one day and how they might be able to help you. I have had other bloggers ask me for favors, and I always help because they are not only my competition but also can be my biggest enthusiasts. Let’s help each other! Go to their events, promote them on your feed, model their latest and greatest designs! Good karma will come back around.
- Do not wish bad on others. You never know what they are going through behind closed doors. I am currently running my blog full-time, maintaining a relationship, paying off a lot of student debt, and my puppy was just recently diagnosed with cancer. As beautiful as my life might look on Instagram, it is not always easy. No one deserves that extra, unnecessary burden.
WWBD (What Would Beyonce Do)
Ladies, this is a pivotal time for us. We have the opportunity to take the reigns and create our own story, a better future, our own fate. I am so proud of those women who are breaking through their tired confines and using their voices for good.
Being a blogger, I feel fortunate to have a platform where I can stand in solidarity and take action against discrimination, harassment and abuse. Let’s strive to illuminate the depths of dark histories, dare to love, and continue to hope for and positively change the future.